Episode 147: When Narcissism Comes to Church with Chuck DeGroat (Pt. 1)
In this episode we sit down with therapist and educator Chuck DeGroat to talk about the phenomenon of narcissism; what it is, how to spot it, and how to address it in our communities. Chuck is the author of When Narcissism Comes to Church. This is part 1 of 2.
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When we’re talking about narcissistic personality disorder, one of the things you see is an incapacity to empathize with others…
Some people say that narcissism is born in self-love… but that’s not true… narcissism is really born in self-contempt… they’re compensating with a grandiose part of themselves that has learned live life shielded and defended…
A narcissist fails to empathize with themselves first…
Some people will say that narcissists are evil through and through… that they’re born evil… but I think that there’s always a story behind a narcissist… if you’re well-loved when you’re young, you won’t need the narcissistic exterior later in your life…
The earliest warning sign that you’re in the orbit of a narcissist is your gut… there’s a stirring in your gut that something feels off… I can’t tell you how many people I know who have ignored their gut…
Narcissistic systems can often breed a sense of loyalty where the leader can’t be questioned… the leader needs to be large and in charge and is protecting their space and power at all costs…
Many of these leaders also have a sense of entitlement to success…
If you don’t metabolize shame in relational ways, you’ll find ways to protect yourself that will be harmful to yourself and others…
Metabolizing shame means going back into your story… people don’t want to do this work…